Reply To: PSTEC Community – How useful and in-demand would this technique be for you?
gavin underwoodHi Jeff et al, I hope that this first paragraph is not purely a unconscious reaction on my part, to any perceived criticism, of my reply to Mike, as, in my past, on many occasions any glimpse of possible criticism in the offing, would have me emotionally bereft, running back to my (dark) cave/pit/duvet/womb, to brood or worry resentfully as my dictionary suggests, for, usually days on end, and consequently to install into my memory banks, as a fact, to be believed as such, a distorted movie of the event. Very unproductive, but, maybe some protection from any thinking of other, bigger hurts; or perhaps, I had been, just gathering hurts (like Blackberries in the Autumn) to confirm my pictures of the world and most other people in it, (especially some family members). It was in my mind, as if they were trying to annihilate my presence in their world. At the time, I thought I came from a small very friendly planet, inhabited by my people, and we were known locally as Sprackett's. Not something I spoke openly about to others, but, a pleasant alternative to the above. Now here at the end of the paragraph I can say, I take on no criticism from your reply. Ye hah.
I digress from the point that Mike started this thread with in the first place; just to add though, for others, whom read the posts, but feel maybe, unable to post a reply of their own. (In the past, that would be me).
For me in my very recent introduction to this forum ( and PSTEC ) I have found writing my few posts to be a very cathartic exercise, on top of which I now find I can reflect on what I've written/posted (often in the early hours of the morning) and edit my ramblings, or, even delete (parts) them at a later hour/day. How fantastic is that.
Previously, I was carrying on a private correspondence with Jeff alone and he kept hinting that it would be a good thing to do it in the forum. My internal reaction to that was-UGH(thanks Meghan)-HE MEANS GO PUBLIC, with my questions/views/opinions; that will be a first for me in 60+ years, do I really have anything relevant/helpful to say?
When here, no one is paying for a psychoanalyst or the like, but when I compare (naughty) this short experience with that longer experience, I know where, I feel, I've gained the most benefit.
It would interest me, to know, that, if you or Meghan had already replied to Mikes post when I first came to see it, whether, I would have felt bold enough to add anything to that, at this moment, I'm not sure I would-interesting though, for me, to see that aspect.
In my reply to Mikes posting, I was not speaking of my experience in using the CT's, it was more like, my experience in life, that had me picking up on his point of, his feeling a need for cue words to use when not listening to the audio, (at work etc). My experience with that scenario is that, I wouldn't want to search for any cue words nor affirmations, there is no searching involved, but I do automatically now think of the CT's (is that a cue word) and start to tap, not for long, that's not needed, a few taps to left and right-not trying/needing to replicate the actual CT's, is enough for me to move past most negative feelings in the moment, only, where I feel there is a need to act, rather than just allow them to be what they are, just my thoughts. (Pre PSTEC, when I remembered, I can say, “just, drop it” and they usually do just drop from my mind). And then wait until I can listen again to the real CT's if needed. I guess it also depends on how oppressive the feeling feels, one would need to work differently with a headache than is needed for a migraine.
And if you re-read my post, it's full of you and yours (Mikes), not, my and mine, experiences.
For me, I had thought, of it, that the very fact that the basic (which is all I know about) PSTEC CT's do not have any need for affirmations or cue words or the like, as a major bonus, as I had built up a dislike for them (putting it mildly) and in all probability I would not have taken to another therapy that has them included (Oh, the rigid mind) until I read Meghan's post in another thread revealing that after-all positive statements/affirmations are only the flip, to what (most of us) we feed our mind with usually/constantly anyway.
Amazingly I had never thought of them that way.
You state also, that Meghan's suggestion is more to the point than mine, I would expect nothing different, as I, as stated previously am a newbie with only a few experiences of the basic system, and a toe in the water in using the Stop Smoking module. And we all have a little knowledge at least, of Meghan's stature in regard to PSTEC.
Go Easy, All whom entered. Gavin