Reply To: Eye contact issue

Hi Noah,

I would begin with the emotional issues and using the Click Tracks on those memories and “started it all”…

• Several years ago I was teased by some of my co-workers

  This one seems quite straighforward… start here and try hard to hold onto the emotions that are present when you recall this memory.  There may even be multiple emotions, so each one should be handled with the CT's; but, start with the most intense one and see what follows.

• going through a tough time at work and feeling pretty vulnerable

  What is the evidence of this… in other words, what memories do you have of this?  Take those memories and feelings and use the CT's with them.

• more I thought about it and the need to “look properly” the more it seemed to compound the problem and tie me up in knots.

  Again, what memories do you have of “being tied up in knots?”

• My eye contact became laboured and I was increasingly self conscious  and worried when looking at people

  Same approach, what memories are the evidence or support this feeling?

• This became very noticeable at work and I could sense they were uncomfortable looking at me too.

  Again, look for memories specific to this.

• became ever more socially anxious and fearful.
• I still have a tendency to look intense and fearful/startled with people I don't know well.
• I get a frosty reception and it holds me back from making friends and being social again.

  Same with these… When… what is the memory?

[/list]Now, in addition to this, or even prior, What is an area that is affected by this anxiety that you would like to see shifted asap?  Be specific and select something that is high on your list AND a common experience, at least a few times a week.
For example, if you think that you want to get married some day and feel the issue is in the way, that is not a “common occurrence” (well, hopefully), but if you wish to be relaxed at your daily work, but right now get anxious each time you go to work, that would be a good example.  If you can narrow something down even toward a specific individual, that would be best.
This serves as your “testing ground” to see how you are moving along and also may expose more of the issue to make it easier to get to the cause or source.
Make sense?
Aloha!
Jeff