Reply To: Change "can" into past tense

Hi Kim,

Thanks for your post.

You have brought up a great point and I would agree that it is important to re-word the belief in such a way that YOU recognise it as having moved into the past.

How do the following statements resonate with you?

– “PSTEC was hurting me.”

– “PSTEC could have hurt me.”

Pick the statement which seems to be more rooted in the past.

I would also tap into the “why?” here. Perhaps you feel it is dangerous to change or to get rid of your unwanted emotions. Do any of these resonate with you?

“It was dangerous for me to change.”

“It was not possible for me to change.”

“If I had changed, something bad would have happened.”

“I was not safe”

I would suggest checking in with those (say each statement out loud to see if they feel true). You could then eliminate them.

I hope that helps clarify the matter for you, Kim.

If you have any other questions, please get in touch.

All the best,

Paul