Reply To: Looking for suggestions to stop vaping

thank you so much for your input and suggestions here – very very helpful and very much appreciated!

I did not respond sooner because I was somewhat “in the trenches” with my overall PSTEC journey and life – you can read the latest about that here: http://pstecforum.com/pf/miscellaneous-and-other-topics/forum-case-study-avoidant-personality-disorder-apd/15/

There you will see that I took SOME your suggestions (as they resonated with me), specifically:

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As I noted in the linked forum post, I seem to have resistance to doing things myself/for myself… and in particular around using the PQT. I see the value of the PQT suggestions you made, I want to do them… I just don't/haven't yet.

I think part of it comes down to the idea that I´ve read/heard from Tim and Jeff and others about the best/ideal way to do things being:

1. CT bad stuff
2. Remove bad beliefs
3. Install good beliefs

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I know this is the ideal, and that probably it's fine to do it in other ways. But I have PAGES AND PAGES of bad feelings/events/situations/memories to work through, and even more PAGES of beliefs to get rid of…

With regards to stopping smoking – I´m done. Vaping too. I am absolute about that. I do need to follow Clearingman's excellent suggestions around “vaping being cool” and that side of things… and again, it comes back to the same thing, essentially – that I need permission and guidance.

Any thoughts/suggestions on being able to do this myself, without permission/guidance? I love the guidance of course, but it the NEED for it that is slowing me down and hurting me.

Thank you so much for your help.

James.