INTRO. and Game Plan Needed.

Hi Michael,

Thanks for your post and for being so candid. I appreciate your honesty and your facility to be vulnerable.

I know that many people (who do not necessarily post) read these posts, so your honesty will surely inspire others.

Now, onto your post…

The first thing I would definitely recommend is targeting the anger. Make a list of everything you can think of that brings up anger. From what you mentioned (and no doubt there will be other memories and concepts too), you may wish to target:

– the way your Mom was treated

– the way your Mom treated you

– divorce

– feeling you had no control

– feeling you were out of control

– feeling you had to hold everything in

– the way you have been treated by people in positions of trust and authority (teachers, therapists, coaches etc.)

– annoyance about life being difficult

Make these things real and, as you go through these painful times in your life, try hard to feel angry (almost like you are having a tantrum) and run a Click Track. I recommend running one of these per day until the anger has subsided: depending upon the Click Track you use, these range from 7 mins to 28 mins.

I do recommend that you make frequent use of the Click Track 2015 Long Track, running a Wrapper track before you do so.

So, as part of your 1 hr per day game play, that could contribute 7, 11, 14 or 28 mins.

I would also recommend running a Belief Blaster  (http://bit.ly/Beliefblasters) each day. Again, these range from 10, 12 or 18 mins in length.

Based on what you wrote in your post, Michael, please check whether the following beliefs resonate.

– “Nobody likes me”

– “Life is a struggle”

– “I’m not OK”

– “I don’t matter” 

– “I’m powerless”

– “I’m not important”

– “There’s something wrong with me”

– “I’ll never get what I want”

If they do resonate, please put the statements into the past tense and run a BB, whilst following the instructions – try hard to believe the belief statement by thinking about times where it seemed the belief was the truth, and mouth the words of the belief.

Check how you feel after you run a Belief Blaster. You will have other beliefs, of course, so I was giving suggestions based on your post.

No doubt we hold thousands of beliefs and many are absolutely fine and neutral. Others were formed in early childhood and have outlived their usefulness.

Thus, I would contend that it makes absolute sense to eliminate the beliefs that are contributing to you having unwanted experiences.

After doing the CT each day, and following up with a BB, you may then finish with a PQT (short at 9 or long at 15 mins). This will ensure you stick to the circa 1 hr per day schedule.

Choose a PQT that really speaks to you. It can run counter to the belief you eliminated via the BB (for example, “Maybe I am actually much better than I realised” ) , or simply be a suggestion that really would benefit your life or enhance your experience in a certain context (for example, “I now feel much calmer than I did before”).

There are lots of example PQT suggestions within the forum. I would just recommend that you choose something that really resonates with you, so word it in such a way that it becomes yours.

You can use a different suggestion each day.

To summarise:

1) Start with a Click Track (Basic, EEF, CT 2015 or Tapping Accelerator) and I recommend targeting anger initially. I appreciate that other emotions will be present, yet many people tend to suppress anger and allowing it to “be there” can facilitate very effective change.

2) Run one BB each day. Try to get as “core” as possible. Think about things that affect or bother you and stay with the feelings. Then ask “what would someone have to believe to have that experience?” Allow the answers to surface. For example, if someone noticed they felt fear every time they were walking alone at night, asking the question above might bring up answers like “I’m not safe”, “The world is dangerous”, “Something bad is going to happen” or “People are out to get me.” Just an example scenario. Those beliefs are likely linked to past experiences and those can be used in the Belief Blasters.

3) Run a PQT. Finish your session with a PQT suggestion that really helps give you the emotional experience you want. 7 to 12 words is optimal. It doesn’t have to be “too good to be true.”  In fact, it is best to choose a suggestion that resonates with you and has enough specificity and believability to be accepted more readily. What would you need to tell your subconscious to help it give you the experience you want?

I appreciate you purchased some of the tracks recently, so please ensure you have listened to the instructions a few times. They are straightforward.

I hope this helps, Michael.

Please feel free to dialogue and please keep the thread updated with reports on your progress.

Kind Regards,

Paul 😉👍👍

Hi Michael,

Thanks for your reply and for clarifying what you have been addressing.

The good news is that you do not have to figure it all out. There does not have to be some big Eureka moment or magic phrase. There can be, but it is not essential.

Equally, you have had a lifetime of experiences and a mix of emotions, so finding a perfect statement to encapsulate it all is not necessary.

Just work through the things that bother you, and remove the programming that no longer serves you – it may have served you at some point, but you can change the programming.

Decondition the emotions you no longer wish to feel, the beliefs that no longer give you the experiences you desire and layer in suggestions that give you healthier perspectives about yourself, life, people and your own brilliance.
<p style=”text-align: left;”>Firstly, with regards to the stumbling block you have hit:</p>
This can happen. This is effectively being generated by your subconscious mind, which is trying to maintain the status quo. This is perfectly normal.

Your words seem to indicate the underlying beliefs (or earlier decisions) that are contributing to the pattern, so you can take them out… a piece at a time:

– “I am worthless” 

– “I am not worth it” 

– “I am going to fail” 

– “Change is overwhelming” (check to see if “Change is dangerous” resonates with you) 

– “Anger is dangerous” 

– “I am dangerous” 

– “It is dangerous to express how I really feel” 

– “If I change, something bad will happen” 

– “I have to hide my bad feelings” 

Say these out loud. Check to see whether they feel true, heavy or painful.

You may consciously disagree with a belief. However, if saying a belief statement feels resonant, it is evidence that you hold it.

You can contrast this by saying something that you absolutely know to be untrue (e. g. “I am from Mars”), and something that is emotionally neutral that you know to be true (“My name is Michael”).

Now, in terms of the belief statements you chose, I have a few points.

For instance, “I used to be out of control” would typically work better as

– “I was out of control” 

It tends to work much more effectively if you put the original belief statement into the past tense. If the present tense version of the belief is “I am bad”, you could use “I was bad” – “I used to be bad” or “I used to believe I was bad” aren’t following the same structure.

“I used to feel out of control” is more of an accurate assessment of how you felt and thus would probably not work as well as a belief to blast. You probably DID feel out of control (based on other beliefs you hold) and this would represent your reality. You are not trying to argue with reality, per se, but the particular interpretations you came up with to explain reality.

What does it mean about you or about life that you felt out of control?

See if any other beliefs come to mind.

“I am…”, “It is not…”, “Being out of control is…”

Just to further illustrate this point…

Suppose someone fell over in a crowded street and felt embarrassed. The fact they fell over is a reality. The fact that they felt embarrassed is true.

If they tried to get rid of the beliefs “I fell over” and “I was embarrassed”, this would not do a lot. It is much better to look for the beliefs that created the embarrassment and the conclusions he/she reached about him or herself, or about other people, based on the event. For example, “I am an embarrassment”, “Everyone is laughing at me”, “It is bad to make mistakes in front of people.”

Please apply the above suggestions to the other beliefs you cited and any others you unearth. Look for the causal beliefs and the conclusions you reached earlier in your life. The core beliefs tend to be very simplistic in structure.

For example, “I used to feel I was not important enough to be heard”…

Think back to the earlier times in your life where you likely made that conclusion.

How would a child say that?

It will tend to be quite succinct – like “I am invisible” or “Nobody cares about me.”

If those statements resonate, put them into the past tense and Belief Blast them.

The PQT suggestions look good. I just recommend fine-tuning some of them, so that they are more positive.

You could try this:

– “Maybe it is possible to express anger in a safe and elegant way”

For any anger you experience when people disagree, this tends to be generated by beliefs like “I have to control what others think”, “I can’t handle people disagreeing with me” and “If people disagree with me, something bad will happen.”

You would surely benefit from eliminating those, if you do hold them (do check).

You could also CT any anger you feel whilst imagining people disagreeing with you or trying to “make you wrong.”

After that, a suggestion like “I am safe to feel absolutely calm when someone disagrees with me now” could be layered in with a PQT.

I hope this helps, Michael.

Please keep us updated.

Paul 😊