Reply To: Help With Identifying Belief

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AvatarMark
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Hi Kath,

That's what confuses me because to me, confidence and assertiveness is being rude, loud and disrespectful. I'm sure you know the expression, “Nice guys finish last”. I feel that I've witnessed that first hand my whole life – seeing girls go with the loud rude guy instead of the nice respectful guy over and over. Also, especially as a performer, you need to have confidence to perform and not care what people think of you. So I do think it's bad to have the belief that you have to be quiet, polite and respectful. That belief has ruined my life.