Reply To: Fear of Failure – Fear of NOT being able to achieve – Failure Belief

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July 8, 2019 at 4:51 pm#26632
Brian Tucker
PSTEC User

    Hi Brian,

    thanks a lot for suggesting these statements!

    I believe each one of these has a place in my experience, so thank you for helping me identifying them.

    I wanted to ask you first if this belief is OK for blasting:

    “I will never get a decent job soon”.

    I'm not sure about “soon”, but I think that's key in my situation, because i don't care having a new decent job in 3 years from now.

    I just finished listening to the instructions and learned that the statements must be in the past tense.

    So that would be:

    “I've never got a decent job soon”

    …which, sound a little weird!

    I don't know if I'm phrasing this correctly, but that's probably because English is not my first language.

    I'd love to hear from you about this.

    Thanks!

    You can look at it lots of ways:
    I would never have gotten a decent job
    I would have been able to get a decent job
    I had been unable to get a decent job
    I would have been unable to get the job I wanted
    Getting a job takes a long time
    Getting a job was hard

    But take it a step further and ask why.

    Don't deserve? it not good enough? Not worthy? Not experienced enough?

    Those are the root causes you will want to focus your work on.