Porn Induced ED
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woodmanHi everyone, I have been using PSTEC on and off for a while, The results have been great, especially in removing some negative stuff.
I have a huge issue. I have quit porn completely, (I used pstec Level1) and some subs. Works well, I have lost interest in porn completley.
Many of you might be aware of porn induced ED.At the moment, I am rebooting by not watching porn nor masturbating anyway.
I brought PSTEC How To Solve Almost Any Sexual Problem The Easy Way, Thats where I found the information for using quitting porn. It was useful.How ever, my ED is porn induced. I hope someone here and help me out to recover asap. Cos there are a bunch of girls interested in me and its not even spring!
HELP PLEASESeratoBeatsDid you ct all the emotions?
Feeling embarrassed sad guilty ashamed of it happening?
What about the feelings you get when you look at her and it happens?
And the after effects of her leaving you or making fun of you and telling all her friends about it?
Ct the worst case scenario, every single aspect of it. Even the frustration of it not getting up and anger toward yourself etc.
Every single scenario you can think of which is affected by this issue or how this issue maybe affects everything outside of the bedroom should be click tracked.
Ruling out any physical issues you should look at beliefs that might cause it.
Fear of failure
Fear of rejection
“I'm not good enough”These are all huge beliefs that are difficult to clear but do your best and pick away at the small ones
Try positives like
“I will be calm and relaxed when intimate with a woman”
“My penis is perfect in every way”
“I love receiving pleasure from women”
“Women easily excite me”
“I release unrealistic expectations of sex”
“I can trust that my penis is in working order”It could be happening because subconsciously you have hidden beliefs about your expectations. Your mind created them from porn. It might not be that you exactly numbed your penis but that you have high expectations of yourself or your partner or you subconsciously compare yourself to other pornstars. Maybe you have a deep fear of rejection which puts pressure on you to perform because if you don't she will leave you.
Look at all those things. Keep digging and see what happens.
I had ridiculously unrealistic expectations of myself and sex. What I did was craft statements to lower them and I feel more confident that all will be ok next time I have sex. And if not, I'll try again and won't judge myself.
Try these as well they should help
I can release myself from unrealistic expectations of sex
Porn is an unrealistic representation of sex
Today I set healthy realistic expectations of sex
Today My sex life can get better and better
If you truly feel that it might not be about that then try..
“Nothing turns me on more than real women”
“Women seem to arouse me easily”
“My erections come easily when Im with women”Do any affirmatioms that get you to be more turned on.
woodmanThanks a lot for the reply, I am really greatful for the fact that you took your time to reply.
I read your post twice to make sure I understood but I got to say that the erections are spontaneous. Its not at all consistent. Morning wood is improving. When I text the girls and get a bit intimate, things seem to get rock solid,
But when I am with the girl and even if shes 10/10 the erection lasts for few seconds, once I wear the condom, it all goes down. Sometimes just hard enough to penitrate for two thrusts.What happened to me is an ED caused by watching too much porn over the years.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=99RGE4OEqlgAbove is the link of Gary Wilson giving an interview about the problems of porn induced ED.
There seems to be thousands of people like me. Most guys need more than 6 months to reboot. Its a very painful process.
I understand what you are trying to say but our problems are much deeper than that.
If you go to sites like http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/ you will understand how messed up our life is.I have used some similar affirmations with Basic clicks and level 1 tracks, to help me clear up the fear associated with failure, trust me, it works. These days I don't care what others think.
I have also used positive affirmation with level1.
This does not help me with errections with the real girls.Had a medical checkup just to make sure I was okay and the doctor says I am more than perfect for my age.
I hope someone can understand the science behind this and help us with even more precise affirmation or techniques.
Thanks a lot
SeratoBeatsNo problem man
Just keep digging
Don't stress yourself out too much because I know stress has a lot to do with it.
Good luck with this
Peter BunyanHi Woodman
Just a couple of thoughts.
The belief that you cannot have a successful relationship “because you have porn induced ED” is a negative belief in-itself, a self fulfilling prophesy. Something else to CT perhaps.
Could it be that your ED is a form of self sabotage related to procrastination that is not only a fear of failure but possibly a fear of success. That is it might make you into a new and different person, take you into a new and frightening world scary enough for your sub to create reasons to fail?
Peter
woodmanBefore I understood the dynamics of my problem I never understood why I am not able to have a successful relationship. Why I was creeping out the girls, why I had issues with confidence, Why I had social anxiety for no reason. it took me a while to understand they were all symptoms of porno addiction. The doctors who I visited were not able to point preciesly why I had ED, when I had morning wood and medically I was perfect. So these issues were there even before I started to understand why.
These days, I am a much better person, after quitting porn I am able to have much better communtication. I found few forums where they helped me understand how my brain got re wired to porn from the real thing.
Internet pornography is creating a generation of young men who are hopeless in the bedroom, according to research.
Exposure to lurid images and films in the new media is de-sensitising so many young people that they are increasingly unable to become excited by ordinary sexual encounters.
The result is that impotence is no longer a problem associated with middle-aged men of poor health but is afflicting men in the prime of their lives.over-stimulation of dopamine, the neurotransmitter that activates the body's reaction to sexual pleasure, by repeatedly viewing pornography on the internet.
To reboot a porn addicts brain it can take three months to six months.
I would love to use PSTEC to try and minimize the reboot time, as abstaining from porn itself has given me the energy, confidence and charm to attract so many nice girls to me, I am having to literally avoid girls these days.I used Pstec to overcome past issues, including getting over the shameful events caused by ED. They work.
I will be using SeratoBeats's positive suggestions and see if there is any improvement. I will get back once I have something to report, so I can help others in my situation.
Thanks for the reply.
SeratoBeatsSorry to hijack your thread
But to Peter,
Can magic sentences for procrastination alone make emotional and belief shifts for fears of failure and success?
I feel myself always making excuses not to take risks
A fear of what ifs is what keeps my anxiety going. I have done positives on taking risks and receiving rejection as ways to fire me up for success. I'm doing all the work with PSTEC but always hesitate to put it all in play. It's like the confidence is there I'm ready to start having sex again and meeting women, and believe me I've been putting in the effort to get back on the saddle and meeting women, but there's always that hidden anxiety of the what ifs, the self doubt. My obsession my past demon was the fear of premature ejaculation. It caused me to avoid sex and every time I attempted to have sex again I would have full blown anxiety attacks and based my life on the issue. The word comes into my head every now and then but my mind pays no attention to it. It's like I'm ready to start having sex again, I'm actually so excited but not knowing how it will all go adds the fuel. It's almost as if I need to have sex to prove myself that my old fears were irrational. And if I don't do this the unknown mystery keeps me in suspense. I believe the belief that fuels it is the fear of failure but it's ridiculously hard to eliminate such a strong belief for being a perfectionist my whole life which I am battling every day as well. Could it be that my mind dosnt want success? A doubt that there's a possibility if things don't go as planned I will end up miserable again instead of just shaking it off?
Ocd is the doubt drug. I'm working on doing self trust affirmatioms as well.
Just wondering if procrastination sentences can help for this issue. I have full blown anxiety all day but I know a lot of it has to do with stress that's being created from the quick changes PSTEC is doing. And now since I'm not obsessing about sex or that issue my mind is going crazy spitting out random gibberish words that make no sense because it had nothing to obsess about anymore. Compulsions are gone and now my mind needs to constantly be doing weird things to cope. I don't know if anxiety is fueling this or the random gibberish going on in my head is fueling the anxiety. Sometimes I feel I'm going crazy but at the same time I must overlook it because Deep down I finally feel a sense of hapiness or hope that I'm moving forward in life.
Peter BunyanSerato
“Can magic sentences for procrastination alone make emotional and belief shifts for fears of failure and success?”
Magic sentences are a novel way of getting a package of related positive suggestions into your sub. They are rather generalized sentences whereas PSTEC positives are single but very targeted suggestions. Both work but in different ways. You can use both. Using the Click Tracks first would usually be recommended either way. To answer your question, If procrastination was your main or only problem then maybe yes, but in your case from reading your posts I think not. Stress anxiety and OCD suggest a more powerful possibly complex initial set of set circumstances. Level 1 eefs and the Accelerators are the tools I would most likely work with.
Keep on Clicking!
PeterSteve Blampied
Woodman,
You say:
“To reboot a porn addicts brain it can take three months to six months. “
To put it plainly, that is someone else's belief. People change instantly, all the time, and everyone is different.
As Peter said your whole “because you have porn induced ED” is a belief in itself.
And if you feel tempted to come back to me and say “but doctors say… dopmamine… etc” I can tell you now my reply will be those are all BELIEFS.
Here's a suggestion. Why not use PSTEC Negative to erase those beliefs and/or use PSTEC Positive to create a belief that it only takes three to six seconds to “reboot” in your case?
Once those are out of the way, take a look at the cause of the Porn addiction in the first place. I suspect that's where the truth lies.
Cheers
Steve
woodmanI will try the negative track tonight. I did the postive last night and I didn't really see much change, may be I didn't use it the right way.
Thank you guys.
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