Porn Induced ED

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  • #23975
    Akandi
    PSTEC User

    I am wondering more about this as ive just had a recent experience where my body wouldnt perform as it use to and didnt matter how turned on mentally, physically i couldnt rise to the occasion.

    Porn/masturbation addiction has taken and wasted alot of time and energy from fulfilling goals, isolating myself from meaningful connections with others, and a multitude of other problems that has come with it. It could stem from trauma/neglect/abuse as a child which i know how to work on with pstec negative. Its all a bit vague at the moment as i havent actively tried to work on it yet so just trying to spitball some thoughts for some input.

    I did see in the book to have hobbies to replace the addiction.

    From a pstec positive aspect how would i redirect all that energy and time into creating a positive habit?

    It looks like a bit of a tricky one as there is so many layers to it and can effect people in multiple ways at the one time.
    I am planning on writing out a list to CT the negatives and start on the list tonight.

    If there is more that is needed to be known as specifics please ask i wont hesitate to answer and if you have feeling of stepping on eggshells please dont, that intensity of trauma ect isnt there anymore just the habit is left over.

    Any input would be greatly welcomed.

    Thank you

    #23976
    Truman
    PSTEC User

    try to pqt

    “I know i am sexually irresistible to women”

    “everywhere i go women are sexually attracted to me”

    “i want women and women want me”

    #23977
    Akandi
    PSTEC User

    Thats something i already believe and have no trouble with believing, i am fully confident in that respect, its about straying off of porn/masturbation induced ED and replacing it with something positive that can use up that energy and time that was wasted.

    Cheers

    #23978
    Daniel Wynn
    PSTEC User

    Thats something i already believe and have no trouble with believing, i am fully confident in that respect, its about straying off of porn/masturbation induced ED and replacing it with something positive that can use up that energy and time that was wasted.

    Cheers

    Hi there,

    Everybody is different, i don't know you personally. So i can't know what interest you on a personal level. There are many things that spring to mind though regarding a more healthy set of behaviours. Such as

    “Now Meditation is much more rewarding than porn”
    “Porn is a waste of time, exercise is a better release now”
    “Reading stimulates my mind more than porn ever could”

    I think you get the message? Replace porn with things that help you become a better person, and give it time. I would continue to use positive statements for a few days to a week. What would you rather fill your time with than porn?

    Also i would remove all of the negativity around it. All the guilt, isolation you feel. I think a lot of times we think holding onto such feelings somehow will prevent us from acting out that way, but its false, and very counterproductive. Holding on keeps us trapped in that revolving door, just going round and around. Knowledge is all we need, so remove it all. Then i would personally plant in more positive suggestions of what porn really is, fake, exploitation etc. To further affirm the message home (if you need to) and how you are a better person without it NOW.

    Take your time, its no race. Remember the aim isn't to reinvent yourself, its to accept yourself. So accept the problem, and find peace with it.

    #23979
    Akandi
    PSTEC User

    Awesome thanks for the reply. Ive been working on it, seems that more connections are being made now
    The ed is still there.
    I was thinking i could QPT around that with such statements as

    Sexual intimacy always gives me super rock hard erections

    I dont know what else i could focus on. I would like to see if it would work as ive have a few play dates at the end of this week.

    #23980
    Paul McCabe
    PSTEC Pro and Forum Moderator

    Hi Akandi,

    Thanks for your post.

    For ED, you may wish to look at lifestyle choices (stress, smoking, alcohol intake etc.)

    I guess this has already been handled, but I just want to leave that there for others, as there can be medical and lifestyle considerations too.

    From reading your initial post, it seems to me that some beliefs may be getting in the way here. You may wish to see if any of these feel true to you and then you can eliminate them (with PSTEC Negative or the Belief Blasters – follow the instructions for the chosen track):

    “If I don't perform well, people will think less of me”
    “I'm a disappointment”
    “It is dangerous to be intimate”
    “I'm inadequate”
    “It is bad to be imperfect”

    If these seem to be present, please eliminate them. Doing so will be very liberating and can knock out other emotions.

    ED can be triggered by and cause frustration and disappointment. It can also be triggered by anticipatory anxiety. All of this can be obiterated with the Click Tracks.

    So, you may wish to consider times when you have felt:

    – you disappointed others (look at experiences with your parents too)
    –  disappointed in others
    – “less than” others
    – a pressure to perform (in many contexts)
    – that you couldn't live up to the expectations of others
    – that people would speak critically of you if you didn't do a good job
    – you will “definitely” suffer ED again

    You could make a note of these and see what comes to mind. Perhaps you could run an Accelerator tapping track to bring up causal events linked to the pattern.

    When you have the events in mind, you can run a Wrapper track from Click Track 2015, trying to feel either the frustration or disappointment and then run the long version of CT2015.

    Rate the feelings before and after and then keep going until this is a 0 or 1. You may need to run the track a couple of times.

    If you worked on frustration first, you may benefit from seeing whether disappointment is present. You could then neutralise this in the same way.

    There are so many ways to approach this.

    After you eliminate the beliefs and CT the unwanted emotions, I recommend running PQT and layering in the following:

    “From now on, I will feel completely at ease in intimate situations”
    “I have always been good enough and now I can relax”
    “I thought porn was real, but I was wrong”
    “I can perform easily now, as it makes sense”
    “It is absolutely safe for me to enjoy intimacy now”

    You can re-word as you see fit, and even add some “amplifiers.”

    I hope that helps.

    See how you get on and please let us know.

    Paul :-)


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    #23981
    Akandi
    PSTEC User

    Awesome post i will have a closer look at it when I get the chance.
    Lifestyle is non-smoker, non-drinker, it could be stress related, ideal weight for my size and age, probably dont exercise as much as I should but no signs of being unhealthy.

    Thanks for that Paul will get back to you soon

    #23982
    Akandi
    PSTEC User

    I did similar ones, i think may have tried to cram in too much too soon. The first meet with the first lady it took sometime to get there, the 2nd lady nothing happened, so focused on her instead let her know what was up which she really appreciated and was a great night in all.

    It was a little frustrating my body didnt respond to how turned on i was.

    Amplifiers?

    Is there much benifit in running wrapper and accelerator in succession?

    Thank you for your help Paul.

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