Confusion on a certain belief..

Hi Benjamin,

Thanks for posting.

As Brian noted…

Two other points too:

1) Eliminating a belief does not necessarily result in a huge emotional release. It certainly can produce this effect, and some people may feel jubilant after eliminating a belief – especially one that has had a big bearing on their life. For other people, it may take some time for the changes to become apparent. This will vary, based on the belief and the individual.

As numerous beliefs can be linked to an emotional or behavioural pattern, it may require at least a few beliefs and emotional conditionings to be eliminated for the changes to become part of your conscious awareness.

2) Some beliefs can describe your experience, while others feed into it to a larger degree than usual. I think eliminating “I have had to protect myself with fear” would do something positive to your experience, but it might also describe what is happening on a subconscious level. In other words, protecting yourself with fear might well be a consequence of holding other beliefs.

You can, of course, experiment. I am very confident you will get a positive outcome.

What might you believe to feel that you are having to protect yourself with fear? Do you feel any emotions (e.g. shame, embarrassment) about having the trauma in the first place? What specific changes are you afraid to make and what do you believe about the consequence of those changes?

You can also ask the following (to help bring up other beliefs)

–  “How do I know I'm…. “not attractive to girls”, “not safe” etc.?”

Wait and see if any thoughts pop up. Things like “Girls aren't interested in what I have to say” or “I'm not safe in this world” would be examples of supporting beliefs. Also, if you had a core belief like “I'm not attractive”, it would likely feed into the pattern. Thinking about your current experiences of life, does that make sense?

– “Why is being attractive to girls important to me?”
See if any thoughts crop up – perhaps the core belief I mentioned will crop up. You can also run memories and imagined scenarios where you have perceived you are “not attractive to girls” through the Click Tracks.

No doubt other thoughts will crop up, and now you can confidently “blast” these away.

Also, when following the Belief Blaster instructions, go for ANY variation of the past tense that resonates with you. Once you target the beliefs and then move them into the past, I expect you will notice some truly profound shifts in your life.

Thanks again for posting and please keep everyone updated on how you progress with this.

Paul

Hi Benjamin,

Thanks for posting.

Even though you had a bad experience at the gym, this just shows an area you can address.

Did you get a chance to go through those suggestions before today, or is that still to be done?

Beliefs like “I will never be attractive” are built on a model of “I'm not attractive.”

I am not saying that there is not a human need (to some degree) to be well-regarded by others, but the balance is key. If you regard yourself positively, you are unlikely to require quite as much as external approval so, when you do get it, it will just be a nice little bonus. You will not link your sense of self to how someone perceives you.

“Some will, some won't. So what? Next!”

The Click Tracks on their own can help you eliminate these patterns. Magic can happen when you are not attached to an outcome and feel good about yourself and life by default.

Also, “being attractive” is an entirely subjective matter and the criteria you use to determine whether someone is attracted to you  (e.g. making eye contact, smiling) might not be followed by other people. To put it another way, is it possible that someone could be attracted to a person and not make their feelings “obvious”?

Even if you objectively knew (to the extent that this is possible) that someone was not attracted to you, it does not mean they would never be attracted to you or that everyone would feel the same.

Please let us know how you get on with this, Benjamin.

Paul

What you are really saying is “women haven't been interested in me” “nobody wanted me” and “I haven't been interesting” “I haven't been important” and “I haven't been attractive” “I haven't been wanted” start by running the tracks on those and it will likely prompt you to realize some more beliefs around that subject area.

The reality here is that others are not rejecting you, you are rejecting yourself and subconsciously creating scenarios where you set yourself up for rejection. You will need to look take a look at your overall self-rejection and fear of rejection beliefs.