Childhood Conditioning – Anger – Abandonment – Death

2. What is the best way to clear this conditioning? Is it clearing the beliefs that prop it up, like knocking the legs out from a table? or is there more to it like a global or macro approach to the conditioning itself?

Scott

Go back to parents as far back as you can remember hit criticism hard w the CT. Get super angry at it, resentful, then take the leftover feelings to a 0 or 1. Do each parent and also the parents doing it to each other as you saw that.

Then possibly a PQT long track – belief:

– criticism is completely safe as negative opinions are always unimportant from now on
– when someone criticizes me I'm secure and unaffected as criticism doesn't matter now
– everything people ever said about me was completely false as I forgive them all now
– all judgement is always a false opinion that doesn't matter from now on

Come back and let us know what is left over, if anything.

Hi Scott,

Thanks for your post.

What Brian wrote and also BB:

“Criticism is dangerous”
“Criticism is scary”
“I'm not safe”

Put them into the past tense and “blast” 

You can also run a long CT2015 on times when you have felt hurt, angry, anxious or scared when you were criticised…or times where you imagine you might be.

With conditioning, you nailed it. That is how it plays out and making the distinction can make all the difference. Criticism would have been interpreted as a threat to your very survival.

So, conditioning will show up as s triggered response. You probably would not say “I'm being criticised. My life is in danger”, but you may see it as a threat or feel sufficiently wounded by it.

I used to go on the defensive any time I was ctiticised, but now feel OK about criticism. When these patterns collapse, you don't take yourself so seriously and can recognise criticism in its proper context. Sometimes people aren't even criticising. They are just lashing out because they feel frustrated.

I appreciate I may seem like a broken record, but there is no “one way” with PSTEC or change. Some therapies decondition by Systematic Desensitisation, exposure etc. With PSTEC, you have so many options. If I was working on this, I'd go in this order:

– Click Track the effects of criticism
– Blast beliefs related to criticism or why you feel you are being criticised
– Layer in the type of suggestions Brian referenced.

All the best,

Paul 

With conditioning, you nailed it. That is how it plays out and making the distinction can make all the difference. Criticism would have been interpreted as a threat to your very survival.

Paul has it and yes also I had many of these same issues it had also to do with a lower than a doormat self-worth. I would go into absolute paralyzed state at even the slightest perceived bit of conflict. You might also consider CT feelings of being extremely intimidated, threatened, arguing, conflict. These will weaken everything for an even bigger collapse. Keep going.