Control freak

Hi Truman,

Thanks for posting.

The usual “no one size fits all” caveat applies here, but I will offer some general suggestions that hopefully steer you in the desired direction.

I would recommend trying hard to evoke the feeling of not being in control and run this through the CT. Go back to when you were young and felt you were being controlled and see if any feelings of fear and vulnerability accompany this.

Imagine being controlled and/or punished.

You might intensify this by considering how you (as an adult) feel about and have interacted with your mother.

Try hard to make that as intense as possible, and keep CTing until you get the emotion/feeling to a 0 or 1.

I would recommend running this through the long CT2015 track.

From the belief point of view, please check whether the following beliefs resonate with you and blast those that do:

– “People took advantage of me”
– “What made me OK was being in control”
– “I'd have been hurt, if I'd lost control”
– “People were out to hurt me”
– “Being in control kept me safe”
– “The real me had to be hidden”
– “I was weak”
– “I was too sensitive”
– “I was not manly enough”
– “It was dangerous to be vulnerable”

And then PQT the following (re-word as appropriate):

– “I'm safe to trust people even more now”
– “When I think I have to control everything, I relax and let life unfold”
– “I now feel absolutely safe and relax my need to control others”
– “Mum just felt out of control, and her grip on me has gone now”
– “From this point on, I'm in absolute control of deciding how I react”
– “I'm already enough and good things come my way when I trust in myself”
– “No matter how out of control someone seems, I remain composed”

Please let us know how that goes, Truman.

Best Regards,

Paul