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Ok, here's a defining aspect of feelings the feelings. It matters not what you perceive you felt in the past when you first experienced the memory “as the now” of that time. In other words, quite often, when I work with someone privately, they may say, “I can't get the same feeling I felt then”… or… “I don't feel what I felt then.” And, that is not important. What is important is what you feel NOW…what you feel in THIS moment and focus on the feeling you feel now!
You see, there are no feeling from the past. All feelings are now… in fact, there is no such thing as past as all is also “now.” So, when you think of a past memory, you are truly thinking and feeling now.
So, let's say you have a memory of being bullied in the sixth grade and at that time you felt fear at a level of 9 on a scale of 0 – 10. But, now when you recall that bullying memory, you only feel the fear at a 5 on a scale of 0 – 10; this is not an issue. The feelings you felt “back then” are not important. Just take the memory and the feeling YOU FEEL NOW and then plug in the Click Track.
Quite often, with social anxiety situations, if you cannot tune into a past memory with the feelings; then use an imagined event in the future. For example, if you have felt social anxiety in going to dance in a public place; imagine yourself going to a place like that or returning to a place you have been before and watch the feeling arise.
Again, whether it's a “past memory” or an “imagined future event”; in reality, both are imagined and you can use either one with PSTEC along with the feelings you feel NOW when you think of those imagined events.
Ok, so… quite often, I will ask someone about a memory and when the person recalls it, I then ask the person how they feel. Let's say they describe fear when they remember the memory. I always ask, where do you feel the fear in your body? Now, some people can feel it right away, some don't. No matter…go with what you have.
If you persist along this path, your sensitivity to the feelings will increase because you are training yourself to allow and recognize the signals… that is what they are… communication from the subconscious.
Be patient because if you do not feel much, not at all, or not consistently; it is only that way because, for some reason, your subconscious has created a Mind Model as such, or it is habitual or, some of both. So, give yourself time to shift and change…you'll get there!
Alright, last part here… regarding the bullying from the same person multiple times… the answer is…you're gonna love this one… “it depends.” Ok, that answer doesn't seem helpful, huh?
Well, it does depend upon the construct of your mind and mind model, but, most times, no, it's not necessary to cover ALL the instances. In fact, your mind will usually bundle thing and match pairs of data that come through. So, if you have a recurring experience, your mind will kind of pile these up which may make it stronger, right, because there is repetition, which may be the tough part. But, it is also good news because it may mean that it is much simpler and, therefore, easier to change.
So, just move forward the best you can with some tips here…
* Think about the person and the most intense memories…could be an expression of the person, an image of a particular place you encountered them, other environmental aspects, color of their shirt…anything that your mind presents to you as very memorable when you do this work. Focus on that piece of the puzzle, let the feelings come through and then run the Click Track.
* If you remember a particular encounter with someone that bullied you and the encounter, say, was similar in three distinct ways or locations; but, the three encounters, each, occurred many, many times; you can “bundle” the encounters and then run a separate Click Track on each one…one at a time… until each one is down to 0 or 1.
So, in effect, you are categorizing things as you assess what the cause of your issue is and, yes, this almost always will quicken the speed in which you find freedom from those memories and emotions.
Bonus Tip: Be sure to always, as much as you can, keep your conscious awareness open and allowing (that's truly the main purpose of your conscious mind) of any hints, flashes or other communication from your subconscious that you need to work on… believe me, the subconscious will help you when you “befriend” it. Do not judge or decide what is relevant… if it comes to your consciousness, run it through the Click Track, EEF or Accelerator Tapping Track.
Whew… quite a bit, huh?
If you have more questions, feel free!