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What a tangled web we weave, albeit subconsciously. It's almost as if we are victims…at least we buy into that whole belief system…that we have no choice we have no power. Ok, enough of those thoughts and talk…let's take some action in the other direction.
It's a bit difficult to ascertain a definite direction yet…be prepared to ask more questions because there are some interesting connections as well as some open question marks.
I hesitate to suggest too much because we must allow her subconscious to reveal what is necessary rather than analyze and tell her what to do, so use questions around these issues to allow her to reveal the issues within. Also, I am taking your words here as her words, nonetheless, here are some aspects to consider in your work with her:
DEFINITIONS AND COMMUNICATION
- She mentions “panic attacks” and “riddled with anxiety.” What is the difference…how would she describe them? I ask this because she mentions that there are no panic attacks any longer, but only anxiety. Is there truly a difference? You see, both of those reactions are the symptoms…the communication. So, is the communication changing or is she just shifting her perception of that communication by covering it up and “making it less than it is?”
- Again, understanding her definitions is very important in your communication. Her “nervous system is starting to fail.” What does that mean and how does she know? As you have learned from PSTEC, language and understanding language can be very helpful as we guide people along. When you are diligent in understanding the meaning of their words, it can bring a wealth of awareness to them because they never before considered the meaning of their very own language. For example (a very simple one); if someone says “Everyone hates me.” And, you ask “Everyone?” Just that simple question and their response can either help you to find a path to consider in your PSTEC work, but also just hearing themselves say it and how absolutes like “everyone, everything, always, etc.” are not Reality, but only their own perception, this can carry quite a bit of weight in helping to collapse a limiting belief. I have seen people's awareness perk up just with that little question.
- “My client felt brainwashed and powerless… also a problem she had with her very dominant deceased parent” …How does she know she is being brainwashed? What does it feel like to be brainwashed? Again, an area of definition for you to use in your guidance.
- Here are some potential table tops, meaning, general beliefs or states of being and are great beginning clues as you drill down a bit on her issues. You can also use these as barometers to how you are doing.
For example, if you look at the truth of the statement, “I am easily brainwashed and influenced by others”… how true is that statement on a scale of 0-10, 10 being absolute truth? Rate the truth, write it down and as you work on the issues, check back in periodically and look at the truth of that statement. This will give her a good idea of her shifts Within. You may even have to alter those a bit. Instead of “…influenced by others.”; you may use “…influenced by _____________ (a particular person).” Again, keep throwing out stuff and see what hits.
[/list] a. I am easily persuaded and influenced by others…by my parents…or just one parent.
b. I have no control over my body…system…mind.
c. I have no control over getting some disease…my parents were sick with _________, so will I be too; just a matter of time.
d. Once I get a disease, it's over…hopeless…I have no control whatsoever…just like _____________.
With all of these general table tops, look for the emotions and feelings as the clues to find some specifics…to find the limiting beliefs. Many times, if we find the limiting beliefs and are “right on point,” we don't have to worry too much about ALL the specifics. If we have the belief come through of the subconscious and can find the ways in which the subconscious represents that belief along with the feelings and emotions; then that's the grist we need for the PSTEC mill.
SO KEEP THAT IN MIND…FIND THE LIMITING BELIEFS FOR YOUR USE WITH THE PSTEC AUDIOS.
Again, you are looking for images, memories, videos, words, thoughts, beliefs…any of those, some of those, all of those…whatever is presented to you via communication (again so important) from the client's subconscious. What are the experiences and “evidence” that the limiting belief is true?
- There are some interesting connections here, at least potential ones… parent's disease and parent’s friend's disease and client's fear of disease or fear of death… parent's “brainwashing and influence” and trainer's (look at the experience of the trainer as a clue about specifics with the parent in this area.
- Last but not least, here are some specifics you try with PSTEC:
[/list] a. Death of parent…look at other aspects, not just physical aspects, but ask “What does their death mean to you…how does it affect you…what is your conclusion from this?
b. The event with the trainer…use this as well, when the intensity is down, to ask, “What does this remind you of?” You are looking for the beginning or cause of losing her self control or her ability to “ward off suggestion.” If the parent's brainwashing was similar, look for all the various specifics to use with PSTEC.
c.When she was paralyzed with the hyperventilation.
I know, I know…you asked for “a bit” of guidance and I probably went overboard…so sue me. :- )
Not only will the questions help you to find some core issues…yes, there may be multiple ones … but, as you persist…as she allows you to persist…she too, will come up with some of her own.
Couple Last Thoughts…
- Be sure she is relaxed as you work with her in session so that the thoughts and feelings coming through are from her subconscious rather than her intellect. As Tim says, therapy is not as effective as done with the intellect.
- Also, for the sake of your own practice and for you, be sure your client takes responsibility for her health, especially since she is under the care of a medical doctor.
- These are, most likely, some incredibly deep, core issues for her, so it may take some time. Be sure she is aware of shifts in her perceptions. When that changes, again, ask questions to help her realize there is a change so that she continues with her work on these issues.
Good job, Sunny!
I appreciate you reaching out and hope this helps a bit.
If I can be of further help, feel free to email or call me.
Take good care…keep clickin’…aloha!
PS I appreciate all that you do…appreciate who you are!!
Here are some additional notes that might be even more specific for working with your client…
Listen in to the audio that comes with the PSTEC Basic Package on Panic Attacks…there are some wonderful gems in there and, by listening to these audios several times, it becomes second nature for us in working with others. With this familiarity comes a growing confidence. What we bring to the table as guides with PSTEC, in my opinion more than anything, is confidence. Confidence in ourselves, in PSTEC and, MOST IMPORTANT, confidence in those we guide and help.
Here are some notes that might give you some hints on this case as well and, from my experience, when I have a client that might seem baffling from time to time it’s not only because I are hitting upon some very causative and deep issues, but I am gaining more momentum in being able to guide an even wider range of situations and people through this crazy maze of the ego.
So, here are some additional thoughts:
- When Tim talked about panic attacks, he did not advise against focusing on feelings, but advises to BE SURE to focus on memories and not feelings alone. You are looking for triggers or the experiences of the subconscious that tell it to trigger panic and fear.
- You mentioned you have collapsed quite a bit of memories in those regards, so just keep at it.
- Help her with the more difficult memories and if you give homeplay (work? Nnaaaahhh), then give her some simple and easy ones to work with using PSTEC. I love giving people homeplay with PSTEC because it’s much more simple than EFT in that they don’t have to worry about what to say. Just focus on the images, thoughts and feelings and go to it. So, in my personal sessions with clients, I am always making notes for two areas: table tops and specifics events. In the homeplay, I will give them a table top or two to be aware of in terms of the feelings and memories that pop up and to note them. The events or memories are there for them to take time and use PSTEC or EFT on in their own private time. This also gets them working on their own so they become more proficient over time rather than having them become a “Jeff addict.” :- )
- Even though she is not experiencing panic attacks anymore, have her look at those past ones if not to clear them, to see what they remind her of and maybe find more triggers.
- There may be many repetitions necessary, so, as I’m sure you already are, be patient and persistent.
Again, I may be preaching to the choir, but ya never know what may hit a chord (pun intended).
So, you may use PSTEC very similarly to EFT in terms of the process. In fact, as I tell most people, the assessment phase is the same. We are looking for images, movies, thoughts, beliefs, emotions, feelings and other sensory awareness.
Once I assess, then we either use EFT or PSTEC and some imagery.
Do I apply PSTEC to all the aspects? Well, I usually don’t have to. Quite often, I can gather what info they have on the core issue and I ask them, when they feel that feeling and have that reaction, what comes to mind most often…what images come about…how is that state of mind or being represented in their mind. They may describe something in particular, like seeing a person’s face with a particular expression. So, then we use PSTEC on the general feelings and images and thoughts. Other times, yes, we use it on specific events with the feelings.
Again, with panic attacks (PA) and even anxiety, look for the specific instances of PA or anxiety and watch for triggers that occur and even work on the specific events of PA and anxiety.
The advantages to PSTEC:
- Again, I believe PSTEC to be much simpler for people to use on their own and is very helpful in moving aside the conscious mind and relaxing the subconscious. This is usually easier for them when someone guides them, but very difficult on their own…PSTEC fills that void very well.
- Many people have used it on more general beliefs and thoughts, so they didn’t have to work on each and every aspect.
- We can incorporate PSTEC Positive. So, when all is calm and the person is feeling groovy, we can pull out the positive and begin to install new thoughts and desires…very effective because unlike EFT Choices, PSTEC Positive is speaking directly to the subconscious, with Choices, we usually still have the conscious mind engaged. Once again, a little simpler for people to use it on their own and every little difference can become the tipping point for a new percpetion…new growth…new awareness…a new life!
- Some people just react more positively to PSTEC…just a personal alignment with some…we all have different ways of relating to the world, right?
[/list] So I encourage you to move forward as you usually do with your expertise. Keep up the good work for all you come in contact with…again, I appreciate your work, your passion, all you do…all you ARE.
Take care…Aloha nui loa!