Reply To: Constructing Imaginary Events
Jeff HardingAloha BJ!
Not a problem… that's what this forum is about… discussion, questions and hopefully answers that help… not just you, but others that are in similar situations along their path. In fact, I appreciate your questions because they bring up the topics that need to be addressed, especially for those that do not bring them out in the open… so, mahalo (thank you) for bring these questions out to the public!
A vague memory can be just as effective as a crystal clear one when running the CT… if it's not enough, then the sub will bring it more info focus for you.
Same with the feeling… no, it does not matter the level… we just use the rating to see if there is movement or change. The number is not important in and of itself… it's just your assessment of progress.
What is important is that you try as hard as you can to focus on the memory and the feeling.
Do you need to do ALL the memories? Well, the True answer is, it depends upon the individual and only the individual knows or will know. But, Reality seems to tell us that the answer is “no.”
So, when you listen and discover the “supporting” memories for, say, anxiety about a certain experience, then do your best to allow the earliest memories to come forth. Well they right away? Maybe not, so start with what you are aware of and pay attention when other memories come up that the sub wants you to deal with.
You see, when you focus on an issue, the sub will eventually bring to your awareness all that is important or earmarked for that issue. In essence, the sub brings these to your awareness and says…
'OK, what do you want to do? You can clear up these experiences and change our mind model or just forget that new intention or desire and let's continue like we always have. I, personally, as your longtime friend and subconscious, have done a darn good job thus far… after all, just look at the evidence… you're still alive, you know! So, I suggest we continue on the same path and forget these new ideas. BUT, of course, it's up to you.'
And, you know what… it is up to you!
So, make the decision to do whatever it takes. Be willing to go through each and every memory if need be… JUST BE WILLING… and you will find it will go much more quickly.
Remember when you enjoyed something … ALOT? How quickly did time pass? So, enjoy this process… ALOT! And, watch the time zip by.
Lastly…
As far as communicating with your sub… it takes practice … keep at it because the sub will test you. Let's say you try, for the first time in years, to listen; but, you only try for 5 minutes. Does that seem like a serious intention? No, of course not!
Dedicate your Life to listening… we do talk and keep ourselves much too busy for our own good. Keep practicing the 2-Step; that is, Get Quiet and Listen.
… and keep listening…
How long?
As long as it takes… the sub will comply when you demonstrate you are serious and this is a priority.
Again… BE WILLING to listen indefinitely. It will come and, very soon, it will be like breathing.
Take care… Aloha nui loa!
Jeff