Reply To: Re: obsessed!
Ok, first of all, the Free Basic CT's are not used to eliminate negative thoughts, but to neutralize whatever feelings or emotions you experience with a particular memory and/or imagined event.
Thoughts are actually conclusions, definitions… they are beliefs … and PSTEC Positive is used to shift beliefs and also behaviors.
Now, when you clear emotions, that can affect your beliefs and behaviors; but, there are circumstances where the beliefs stand on their own so to speak even without the emotions/feelings and, in fact, can continue to reproduce the emotional responses again.
So, when you mention negative thoughts, like:
I’ll never find anybody like him again
I’m never the one
They never choose me. Ever.
What’s he doing now, who’s he with, and why did he have to turn out to be such a jerk?
There are all beliefs and are addressed with PSTEC Positive.
So, moving along with Level 1 that includes a couple more tutorials so you can gain an even greater understanding of how PSTEC works for you and it also includes the EEF's and PSTEC Positive… well … great choice!
One more general comment on your thoughts…
“deep, deep longing to be connected to someone else “
Do you see the limitations of this belief … of this “mind model?”
There is a desperation there that will put you in a position to accepts “just about” any relationship to fill that need. Maybe not “any”; but that mind model will allow another relationship that is not empowering… not ideal for you.
Shift the mind model first… not just the emotions, but also the beliefs and behaviors … before you look to another relationship.