Reply To: Breaking up with a first love
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This can be a bit challenging on your own because these types of emotions where you still have feelings for someone (i.e. what one might call “love”) can be very strong and it's not that it's harder to work on with PSTEC, but difficult for the person to “see the forest for the trees.” Therein, lies the challenge.
But, you can work on these points on your own and then if you still have issues, maybe have a practitioner work with you to help you along…
1. First decide if you are ready to move on... in other words, if you meet him sometime by chance, would you “fall in love” again and even be open to it? So, you MUST be wiling to move on permanently to make any PSTEC work on this type of issue Truly effective.
Your thoughts that a past, hurtful relationship could affect future ones can be true so it's a wise choice to address not only THIS past relationship and its effects, but also… this is important … the mind model that led you to this failed relationship. Why were you attracted to someone that caused you pain because there is always a reason within us that allows this.
2. Address emotions …
Hurts … CT any traumas, no matter how seemingly small until you feel neutral about them. Include betrayals in here as well. You want to look back upon this and other past relationships as mere events… neutral events … and then you are clear not only to attract True Love… Unconditional Love… but also clear enough to express it to the world as well.
Rejected … CT any rejections, failures, etc. Now, don't just leave this to the relationship, but to other memories that arise as well. This is always True… when something comes up, DO NOT judge it, define it, deem it unrelated, etc. If it is not J.E.E.P., CT it!
Desire and/or Need … any feelings of desires and need for him… CT that too. So, if you feel attracted in any way, you can CT that as well.
Here are some negatives to address with PN:
*this relationship will have effect on all my other relationships
*I will ever trust someone again
*I am jealous of him
Use PSTEC Positive to suggest new beliefs you desire about relationships.
I can't go into all the details of those beliefs because it depends upon your desires, your past issues, etc. But, there you go, a few suggestions.