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AvatarBrian Tucker
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For starters… Blast the belief “the world owes me something”

You have jealousy and envy issues there as well as disappointment, resentment etc. What you must first understand is there is no issue with the 3rd party at all. The issue is with you and you only.

You have to start asking the hard questions. Does this person really want to be with tyou? Are you “in love” with someone who has any interest in you at all? Is it just a fantasy you are playing out to cope with some unresolved issues from you past? Why do you want to pursue a person who is not making themselves available to you? Do you believe you must try hard to get love?

If you can list out the things YOU are thinking in detail each with a feeling perhaps we can give more suggestions.

The other question to ask is that does the “love” you feel for this person feel like “joy, enthusiasm, excitement or peace? If it does not then it's likely not love and can be clicktracked. Love should never feel bad or hurt.

Let us know more details about your thoughts and feelings.