Reply To: Newbie User Hitting Plateau.
Hey Sarge… sure, also, for example…
No one has ever complained about my ___________
I have never received any criticism from anyone else.
I get very few complaints and I get my work done on time.
No one has ever fired me for lack of performance so I must have been good enough.
Of course, the statements must apply, but, you see, you can ALWAYS find reasons why a negative belief is not true.
Traumas tend to get us to see ONLY the trauma… only the painful … even to the extent where we forget the positive and pleasant. Reminds me of a person I was working with that had some very heavy trauma as a child and had the belief that NO ONE ever loved or cared for her (some terrible abuse from her parents, step parent, etc.). But, when we gently delved, turned out there was a lovely lady next door and her daughter, who had her over quite often, probably knew something was amiss, and cared for her… showed her love and compassion. This was more apparent after doing a few CT's and when peace entered her consciousness. So, she was able to counter that belief easily.
So, don't be quick to make absolute, negative statements… or to “buy into” them.
Ok, now, what about specific situations/instances? As I've mentioned I've been approaching women and a lot of my lack of success was fear of failure (which I've dealt with I think, using the negative CT), yet, the belief that I'm not good enough is there in THAT department too, and since I've never done this kinda thing before, there are absolutely no counter examples in this 'field'. What do I do there?
Another one I'm working on is getting my finances in order and I want to build some wealth. I've never done THAT before, either, and the same thing. How can I counter statement on stuff I've got no experience in?