Reply To: Fear of confrontation – Help needed – My Journey with PSTEC
Brian TuckerI can see that you are already getting big shifts in how you perceive things. After toppling some big beliefs and working on the heavy emotions, you naturally go easier on yourself and lighten up more and more. You see things as less of a big deal. Whereas before a mistake might have elicited heavy “failure” feelings, you start to see things more for what they are and not a huge indictment of your inherent worth.
Well stated. This is what I am experiencing and it gets better with every day.
In this case, it might be useful to get especially clear on the distinction. Are there any events that crop up when you think people are judging you (harshly)? Is it in certain people, certain facial expressions or scenarios where this is most pronounced? If so, you could explore these and click track each emotion as you run through the memories.
The amazing thing with this work is that you can live in a world where people judge you, and be absolutely ok with that and more than ok with yourself. The emotions are most likely coming from the meaning you are giving certain expressions, comments or scenarios. Once you dissolve those? Magic.
I did do this last week and it helped immensely the next time I was around a big group of people. I will say I am getting to a point of stability where my emotions are quite stable – I can think of instances to click but creating, even finding the emotion on many of them is not as strong as it used to be, as the emotions have dissipated overall within me.